10 Things Not To Say To Your Child5 min read

It is important that we speak to our kids in a healthy way to help them develop and grow. As children get older, they become more receptive to what they hear and see. It’s important to make sure that the words we use are not harmful to them. Learning to talk to your kids is one of the most challenging parts of parenting. It’s not an easy task, and it affects their personalities. While at times, it can be difficult to control the actions and behaviors of your child, it is important that parents avoid reacting to them in the middle of their busy lives. Unintentional words can have a negative effect on a child’s development.

One of the most important things we can do is to monitor what we are saying to our kids in front of them. This will help prevent them from reacting in a way that they might not want to.

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Never feed a kid with negative thoughts. It will kill his or her self-esteem. Explain that some actions are bad and that they might hurt or harm someone. But don’t tell the kids that it makes them bad people.  If they are the best in the world, then tell them that. Teach them what makes them happy and positive. Positive self-talk helps kids develop healthy choices and healthy habits. Always maintain a positive approach towards your child.

2. Do not Compare

Never compare your kids to their siblings. It makes them jealous. By constantly comparing our kids to other kids, we can make them more anxious and stressed out. By constantly comparing our children to other children, we can make them anxious and stressed out. It can also lower their self-esteem. They start to feel that they can’t be good at anything. This could make them stop participating in social events and activities. Encourage your child whenever possible and every time they need it.

3. Careful when Telling “NO”

A straight no is not only harsh on your child, but it can also affect their confidence and self-esteem. Instead of saying “No,” try saying “Talk softly, please.” Instead of saying “Don’t play in the house,” tell them to play in the park. Having a bounded child can also make them feel excluded and rejected. This can then lead to tantrums. Having a hard time saying no can also make them feel unwanted. Try re-framing the way you say “NO”. Make them understand why you wanted to tell a “NO” and let them choose to do it and not to do it.

4. Tell them they are Capable

There will also be times when kids will want to do something that they know they won’t be able to do. Encourage them to do it as long as it doesn’t harm them. When my son says he can lift a heavy chair, I tell him that he can do it for me instead of saying that he can’t do it. Instead of saying that he can’t do it, I tell him that I will help him do it. Your child’s self-confidence is key to success. We often focus on our kids’ bad behavior and call it out. This can be a way to get attention, but it can also perpetuate poor conduct. Try using a positive approach by praising them to motivate them. This can help children develop good character and reduce the need for discipline.

5. Never Ban your Kids

Never stop communicating with your child. Just make sure that they understand what you’re trying to communicate. If they are not going to agree with your advice, then tell them to stick to it. When my kid does not buy my point, I often make a sad face and ask him to do whatever he wants to do instead of asking him to stop. This can work for both parties.

6. Say no to Gender-biased rules

Let the child be who he or she is. It’s up to them to decide if they want to be more like a boy or a girl. There are plenty of things they can do with their bodies that they might be interested in. Let kids make their own decisions. They may choose to be more like a boy or a girl. This will help them be their true self.

7. Do not express your anger or irritation to your children

Never ask them to leave you alone. Never show any anger or frustration to anyone in front of their kid. Never say things that hurt children, they feel that they are not loved or wanted. Instead, take an approach trying to educate them about the situation.

8. Never Scare them

Threatening to keep your child calm, cause anxiety and fear in the child. It shows that you are not capable of handling an issue or situation properly. If your child has made a mistake, tell him/her about it. If he/she has a reason for the mistake, then explain it to him/her. Let your child take responsibility for their actions and mistakes. Also, don’t make them an everyday threat. Doing so will only serve negative intentions in your child.

9. Never Blame your Child

A problematic child is not the child’s own fault. It is the reflection of parents. They have learned how to behave properly from their parents, teachers, and other relatives. Blaming them will never help. It is the reflection of parents. They have learned how to behave properly from their parents, teachers, and other relatives. Blaming them will never help. Listen to them, talk about things and make them decide the right and wrongs. This will help your child in decision making.

10. Never stop them from doing what they like.

When my kid wants to jump on the bed, He/She starts doing so! Say that You love to see him/her happy and secure as I make him/her feel like a part of my world. Instead of just giving up, think about how it will make them more comfortable and happy.

Conclusion

Positive communication is important for your children’s development. They help them express themselves clearly and gain a deeper understanding of others. This happens only when a parent is willing to unlearn and start anew.